And what can you do about those difficult relationships that never seem to work no matter how hard you try?
I'm going to post a few answers to these tough questions and link you to the resources and the astrology behind them.
Read on ...
(I'm a student, so I'm learning all this as I post it. Thanks for coming along for the ride!)
The reason I'm starting a list of these is that one or two of them in a synastry chart between two people isn't enough to indicate strong karma. The more the merrier!
Or, um, in the case of the classic "karmic," the relationship may not be so merry. (See the first article above.) One thing to note is that if you have strong karma with someone, you may not be surprised to find out some of these are in your synastry chart with them. You probably experienced an urgent feeling at the very beginning that you should get together. Maybe you keep leaving each other and getting back together. The person is on your mind and hard to get over.
How can you find out of you have any of these? Head on over to astro.com and click on the "Free Horoscopes" tab. You'll notice there's one called "Astroclick Partner" but don't use that one if you're trying to find indicators of a karmic relationship. The chart that tab brings up is called a "composite," and while you'll find that VERY informative, it's not a synastry chart. "Synastry" superimposes your chart over their chart and looks for planets that sit in the same place, or that have significant "aspects" to each other, such as 90 or 180 degrees.
On the "Free Horoscopes" menu, go over to "Drawings and Calculations" and select "Extended Chart Selection." In "Sections: Chart Type," you will see three different synastry choices. These just affect how the charts display. I personally find the third one easiest to read. When you select that, a space pops up for you to enter both yours and your partner's birth data.
When you hit, "Display Chart," what comes up can look like a mess if you aren't experienced in reading charts. What I do is hit "PDF: Additional Tables." A PDF does, in fact, come up in another window, and if you scroll to the bottom, a grid is there that lists all the aspects between the two charts. This is what I look at to be sure I am not missing anything when I compare two charts.
Anyplace you see a symbol that looks like a circle with a dash at the two o' clock position is a "conjunction," or a place where something in your chart lies directly on top of something in theirs. This is the most powerful aspect in astrology and is what we look for first. This link will show you what symbol stands for what planet.
So, now that you know how to find these, what conjunctions are you looking for?
1.) Today we'll start with Saturn, the Number One Biggie and Baddie when it comes to relationship karma. Basically, if one person's Saturn is sitting on the other person's anything, there's probably some past life tie in this relationship. Most important, however, is the nodes of the Moon. If Saturn is sitting on one of these, you know there was some connection in a past life.
Saturn is really a double-edged sword in relationship astrology. On the one hand, it gives a relationship staying power. Saturn is often prominent in the relationship charts of married couples.
On the other hand, Saturn is the planet of hard work, duty, restrictions, and hard lessons. It can indicate hard-won successes at the end of a long climb; but a lot will depend on how mature, teachable, and introspective BOTH people are. If the relationship is a classic karmic, it could very well be that one person in it is NOT mature, teachable, and introspective, and the other person is going to suffer a lot while feeling as if they cannot break free from the relationship for some reason. Often the suffering person needs to learn some lessons in self-worth and self-protection, and the karmic is teaching them those lessons with a sledgehammer.
This isn't to say that ALL relationships with Saturn are bad, but watch out ... especially if one of the natal charts has a lot of indicators in it of a tough childhood, a bad temper, or compulsive behavior with poor insight.
In my last (failed) relationship, the two Saturns are trined. This is a favorable aspect that implies we should be able to work well together. My Saturn sits on his South Node, which definitely implies that we knew one another in a past life. We also have his Saturn squaring my Uranus and my Pluto. And my Saturn sits opposite his Sun and his Venus. Hmm ... ties that could bind, but if these two people didn't give each other a lot of freedom and try to change only themselves and not each other, this relationship could end up feeling awful and cool off fast.
Hi. If you're here because of affair-related issues, I run a sister site specifically about affairs. It's called The Thinking Other Woman and I put a lot about affair recovery and the astrology of affairs over there, plus a message board. Come visit!